There is s much controversy over this little spot it's hard to know what to believe sometimes. Discovered in the seventeenth century by a Dutch anatomist called De Graff it has always been the subject of mysteries and confusion. The spot itself was given the name G - spot after the German scientist, Dr Ernst Grafenberg who in 1950 wrote an article describing a spot on the vaginal wall that could in certain women produce immensely pleasurable and sexually stimulating sensation. Studies show that all women do have a G -Spot but that not all experience pleasurable feelings when it is stimulated. The G Spot is described as the female equalivant of the male prostrate.

The G-spot is a small mass of tissue normally no bigger than a pea that is located approximately two inches from the opening of the vagina -- midway between the pubic bone and the cervix. Its exact positioning will vary from women to women though. Finding your own G- Spot is not always easy unless you sit or squat. It's much easier to find this little spot with the assistance of a partner.

Some women will experience the urge to urinate, when light pressure is first applied to this area. This is normal. If it should happen try and bear in mind that this feeling will last only for a short while. One way to feel better about this first sensation is to urinate before you begin to explore, this way you know that your bladder is empty.

Try lying on your belly with you hips pointing upwards. Placing a cushion or pillow beneath your partners hips can make this position more comfortable. Slowly guide two/three finger inside her vagina and gently begin to explore her vaginal wall, pressing down lightly with your fingertips. Before you start to explore please ensure you partners vagina is well lubricated. Use a warmed lubricant if necessary.

Another way to explore this area is for the woman to lie on her back, making sure again that she is comfortable. This time insert you fingers into her vagina, curving slightly upwards and making a "come hither" motion. Again make sure that you partner is well lubricated and as always talk to her.

Please bear in mind at this point not all women are the same. Some will experience intense sexual pleasure as this spot is stimulated, others find it uncomfortable. As always let you partner and her body be your guide.

The G -Spot is often linked to female ejaculation, which is also something of a mystery. Despite almost fifty years of speculation and research there are many areas of human sexuality yet to be fully understood. The female ejaculation is one of them. There is evidence that these ejaculations are linked mainly to G-Spot stimulation, just as many women experience multiple orgasms this way but at the same time if you're not one of them, don't worry. With all the hype that has surrounded these subjects over recent years it's all to easy to think that because you haven't/don't experienced these things you aren't 'Normal' or that you are somehow missing out.

Remember, every woman is different. Wouldn't life its self be boring if we were all the same? The same goes for sex in my book. What would be the fun if you knew how your partner was going to react every time you touched her/him there. The key to good sex as always is to communicate with your partner. You aren't abnormal if having your G-Spot touched makes you squirm for all the wrong reasons, anymore than a woman who squeals in delight when the same spot is touched. You are just you!