The Art of Fingering

Fingering: The art of using your fingers to masturbate you partner's vagina. That's the definition anyway. You just put your fingers inside your partner and push in and out and she has a major orgasm; right? If only life was that simple!! Most of us know it isn't. There's a lot more to the art of fingering than the above. I've tried to include a few pointers in this article that can help you and your partner enjoy this experience a little more. As always remember that every woman is different and this only a guide.

The first thing I want to draw to your attention to is lubrication. Lubrication can go a long way to making fingering a more pleasurable experience for a woman.

Guys, ever had a woman grab your penis and start to yank, no lubrication, no stimulation. Hurts doesn't it!! It's the same for a women, no lubrication = pain and soreness and that's not what we want. You want her to moan with pleasure not pain.

There are a couple of ways you can help lubricate your partner, foreplay is the obvious one, stimulate her mind as well as her body. Talk to her, tell her how wonderful she makes you feel and how much you want to please her. Lubrication will probably come naturally but if not you could run your finger around your lips and suck on it and then when it's moist begin.

So she's nice and wet thanks to your thoughtfulness. What now?

Don't just shove you fingers inside her, try applying a little gentle clitoral stimulation first. Take your time and explore her folds and curve with your fingertips. Listen to her, talk to her and watch her reactions. You may want to ask her to use her hand to guide yours to the places and pressure that give her the most pleasure. Or you could take that a step further and ask her to show you how she masturbates herself. Watch and learn, take you time and the rewards will be great for both of you.

After some clitoral stimulation you might want to try inserting your finger gently into her. Begin with one and if she enjoys this then try another. Many women find one finger is not enough but two are just right. As always this depends on the women, because we are all different. Use your discretion here and listen to her, watch her body and her reactions. You should be able to tell a pleasurable moan from an uncomfortable one.

Slide your fingers between her lips and begin to gently explore. Most women don't find the in-out motion that pleasurable to be honest. A much better approach is to try and find her G-spot. It's located at the top of her vagina, if she's aroused you will likely feel a rough spongy spot on the roof of her vaginal wall. Push on this and watch her reactions. Using a "come here" motion will probably send her into orbit. Again talk to her and watch her reactions, try applying different pressures until you find what she really enjoys. You may want to get fancy here and stimulate her clitoris with your thumb at the same time. This can be wonderful. Another option is to give her oral whilst using your fingers. This will also help to lubricate her.

Many women are concerned that the guy isn't having any fun here, so make sure that she knows you are. Tell her you love to please her this way and how much of a turn on it is for you to see her receiving pleasure.

Try and be consistent. Changing positions and exploring can be fun but it can also be frustrating for the women. When you find something that she obviously enjoys, keep doing it. Also don't forget that you have two hands and a mouth. Kiss her occasionally, use your free hand to touch her thighs or her breasts but do something. This all adds to the intimacy.

When she has come please don't just jerk your finger/s out, instead remove it/them slowly and gently. This is a wonderful time to look into her eyes and tell her how much you've enjoyed pleasuring her this way.

The key here is to not be afraid to explore your partner or afraid to ask if they like what you are doing. Learn to watch her body, listen to her reactions and be prepared to just pleasure her.